Are You a Backseat Driver or a Cross Bearer?

Are You a Backseat Driver or a Cross ?

May 12, 20266 min read

What Does It Mean to Carry Your Cross Daily?

In a world where Christianity has become more comfortable and socially acceptable, the true cost of discipleship can be easy to overlook. Yet Jesus' words in Luke 9:23-24 remain as challenging today as they were 2,000 years ago: "And he said to all, if anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me. For whoever would save his life will lose it. But whoever loses his life for my sake will save it."

The Challenge of Modern Discipleship

Why Following Jesus Seems Easier Today

Unlike the early disciples who faced immediate persecution and potential death for following Christ, modern Christianity often allows us to blend in. We can keep our faith private, sharing it only on social media or within church walls. This comfort can make us forget that true discipleship requires visible transformation in our daily choices and activities.

A genuine marker of discipleship isn't just what we say we believe, but whether people can recognize we're followers of Jesus through our everyday actions and decisions.

Learning from Elisha's Radical Commitment

The Prophet Who Burned His Bridges

The Old Testament prophet Elisha provides a powerful example of what it means to carry your cross. When the prophet Elijah called him to follow God's calling, Elisha made a dramatic decision. He owned 24 oxen - representing significant wealth in his time - and was responsible for substantial agricultural operations.

But when God called, Elisha didn't hesitate. He killed all his oxen, burned his plows, and gave the meat to his community. This wasn't just generosity; it was a deliberate act of ensuring there was no way back to his former life.

Called Out of Comfort

Elisha was called from Abel Meholah, which means "stream of dancing" in Hebrew. He was called out of a place of comfort, joy, and familiarity into an uncertain future with God. This illustrates an important truth: picking up your cross will call you out of places of comfort into deeper relationship with Christ.

Sometimes our comfort zones are actually unhealthy rhythms we've grown accustomed to. What feels safe and familiar might not be what's best for our spiritual, mental, or physical well-being.

Two Essential Truths About Carrying Your Cross

You Cannot Stay Where You Are and Follow God Where He's Going

Throughout Scripture, we see examples of people who had to leave the familiar to follow God's calling. Abraham left his homeland, Moses left his shepherd's life, David left his fields, and countless others made adjustments to align with God's will.

Every decade, every month, every day determines the trajectory of the ones to come. The adjustments we make today allow God's glory to descend on our present circumstances and influence future generations.

You Encounter God More Deeply When You Trust Him Enough to Obey

Denying ourselves and picking up our cross requires adjusting our will to align with God's will. This isn't about perfection - Elisha wasn't perfect either. There's even a story where he called bears to attack children who mocked his baldness, showing he was human with flaws and a temper.

The point isn't perfection; it's obedience. You don't have to be perfect to say yes to what God has for you next. Seeds of faith get scattered with every yes you follow through with, and lives are transformed by the testimony of your obedience.

From Backseat Driver to Cross Bearer

The Difference in Perspective

There's a significant difference between being a backseat driver in life versus being a cross bearer:

  • A backseat driver says "I know the best route," while a cross bearer says "Not my will, but yours be done, Lord"

  • A backseat driver questions God's turns, while a disciple trusts God's navigation

  • A backseat driver stresses about outcomes, while a disciple relies on God's provision

  • A backseat driver tries to control the speed, while a disciple follows Christ at His pace

Shifting Our Focus

From Self-Centered to God-Centered

We need to stop being obsessed with asking "What does God want to do in my life?" and instead ask "What does God want to do, and how can I be a part of it today?"

This shift in perspective moves us from self-centered spirituality to God-centered mission. It's about becoming a vessel for God's purposes rather than trying to use God for our own plans.

The Daily Decision

Making the Choice Every Day

Carrying your cross isn't a one-time decision made at an altar call or baptism. It's a daily choice to surrender our will to God's will. Every single day, we must consciously decide to walk through life with Jesus.

At any point in his journey, Elisha could have said no. He could have hidden from the very people God was calling him to serve. But he made the daily decision to trust that God knew what He was doing and that Elisha was simply a vessel for the Lord's purposes.

The Cost and the Promise

Understanding What We're Giving Up and Gaining

The cost of obedience will always be present, and we can't always know what that cost will be. But we do know this: in Christ, we have everlasting life. As John 3:16 reminds us, "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life."

Jesus already paid the ultimate price so that we can have everlasting life - and that life can start today, not just after we die.

Life Application

This week, examine your life for areas where you're acting like a backseat driver instead of a cross bearer. Are there places where you're trying to control outcomes instead of trusting God's navigation? Are there comfort zones you're clinging to that might be preventing you from following God's calling?

Consider what it would look like to "burn your plows" - to make a commitment so complete that there's no easy way back to old patterns or priorities. This doesn't necessarily mean dramatic external changes, but it does mean internal surrender.

Ask yourself these questions:

  • What areas of my life am I still trying to control instead of surrendering to God?

  • Are there comfort zones I'm clinging to that might be hindering my spiritual growth?

  • How can I shift from asking "What does God want to do in my life?" to "What does God want to do, and how can I participate?"

  • What would it look like for me to make the daily choice to carry my cross in practical, visible ways?

Remember, you don't have to be perfect to say yes to God's calling. Every act of obedience, no matter how small, scatters seeds of faith that can transform lives - starting with your own.

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